The apostle Paul wrote this letter to the church in Ephesus, a major city in what is now western Turkey, around 60 AD. This short verse sits inside a longer passage calling believers to live as 'children of light' — people whose lives reflect God's character rather than the darkness around them. The instruction to 'find out' what pleases the Lord is active and ongoing — it is not 'follow this checklist' but 'keep discovering, keep discerning.' The word Paul uses implies an ongoing process of testing and learning. He assumes that knowing what pleases God is something you pursue over a lifetime, not something you download once and store away.
Father, I admit I come to you most often with my agenda already written. Teach me to ask what pleases you — and to actually wait for the answer without filling the silence. Give me a heart more interested in your joy than my own comfort. I want to know you, not just know about you. Amen.
Five words that could upend your entire spiritual life if you let them — not 'do what you're told,' but 'find out what pleases the Lord.' There's an invitation buried in this tiny verse that most people miss: the idea that knowing what delights God is something you actively pursue, the way a person who loves someone deeply pays close attention to what brings them joy. You don't 'find out' what pleases a stranger. You find out what pleases someone you are actually trying to know. The verse assumes a relationship, not a rulebook. The honest challenge is this: most of us know what we want, and we ask God to bless it. Far fewer of us sit with the question — genuinely, patiently, without an agenda — 'What actually pleases you, God?' It requires silence. It requires reading Scripture without looking for ammunition. It requires the willingness to hear an answer you didn't plan on. What if you spent five minutes today asking that single question, not petitioning for anything, not confessing anything — just asking what brings him joy and then waiting?
What does it mean to 'find out' what pleases the Lord — how is that different from simply memorizing a list of rules or obligations?
In your daily life, how do you actually discern what pleases God? What practices, relationships, or habits help you figure that out?
Is it possible to do outwardly 'Christian' things — attending church, serving, giving money — without genuinely seeking what pleases God? What is the difference between the two?
How might actively seeking what pleases God change the way you treat a specific difficult person in your life right now?
What is one concrete thing you will do this week to ask and listen for what pleases God — not to have your current plans blessed, but to genuinely discover something new?
For what glory is it, if, when ye be buffeted for your faults, ye shall take it patiently? but if, when ye do well, and suffer for it, ye take it patiently, this is acceptable with God.
1 Peter 2:20
Wherefore we receiving a kingdom which cannot be moved, let us have grace, whereby we may serve God acceptably with reverence and godly fear:
Hebrews 12:28
Let the words of my mouth, and the meditation of my heart, be acceptable in thy sight, O LORD, my strength, and my redeemer.
Psalms 19:14
That ye may approve things that are excellent; that ye may be sincere and without offence till the day of Christ;
Philippians 1:10
And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.
Romans 12:2
I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service.
Romans 12:1
Ye also, as lively stones, are built up a spiritual house, an holy priesthood, to offer up spiritual sacrifices, acceptable to God by Jesus Christ.
1 Peter 2:5
Prove all things; hold fast that which is good.
1 Thessalonians 5:21
trying to learn [by experience] what is pleasing to the Lord [and letting your lifestyles be examples of what is most acceptable to Him—your behavior expressing gratitude to God for your salvation].
AMP
and try to discern what is pleasing to the Lord.
ESV
trying to learn what is pleasing to the Lord.
NASB
and find out what pleases the Lord.
NIV
finding out what is acceptable to the Lord.
NKJV
Carefully determine what pleases the Lord.
NLT
Figure out what will please Christ, and then do it.
MSG