The proverbs of Solomon. A wise son maketh a glad father: but a foolish son is the heaviness of his mother.
This verse opens the second major section of Proverbs, a book of ancient wisdom writings attributed to Solomon, a king of Israel celebrated for his extraordinary wisdom. The verse presents a sharp contrast: a son who grows in wisdom and makes thoughtful choices brings deep happiness to his father, while a son who acts foolishly — without wisdom, causing harm through his choices — brings grief to his mother. The deliberate mention of each parent separately may reflect how profoundly personal joy and sorrow are within a family. It is a candid, unsentimental observation about how our choices ripple outward, landing on the people who love us most.
Father, remind me that my choices don't happen in a vacuum. Forgive the times I have lived as if they did. Give me the wisdom to become the kind of person whose life brings life to others — not grief — especially to those who love me most. Amen.
Think about the last time someone told you they were proud of you — not of an achievement, exactly, but of *who you were becoming*. The kind of pride that sees past the résumé and into the character. There's something in the human heart that lights up at that. And there's something in this proverb that insists the inverse is equally true: our choices carry weight. They land. They matter to people who are paying attention in ways we rarely account for. This isn't an invitation to drown in guilt or to perform for an audience. But it is worth asking honestly: who is watching you grow — or not grow? A parent, a child, a mentor, a friend who has quietly invested years in you? The wisdom you choose today, or refuse, doesn't stay private. It radiates outward. Not every family is healthy or safe, and not everyone has a parent to make proud. But somewhere in your life, someone is paying attention to the kind of person you're becoming. What kind of story are you writing for them?
What does this verse suggest about how our personal choices are connected to the emotional lives of the people who love us — and do you think that connection is fair?
Who in your life would you most want to make proud through the way you are living right now — and honestly, are you doing that?
Does the responsibility of affecting others through your choices feel motivating or burdensome to you? What does your reaction reveal about how you think about relationships?
How does a genuine awareness of how your choices affect loved ones change the way you treat the people closest to you day to day?
What is one area of your life where you know you need to grow in wisdom — and what is one concrete step you could take toward that this week?
A wise son maketh a glad father: but a foolish man despiseth his mother.
Proverbs 15:20
Thy father and thy mother shall be glad, and she that bare thee shall rejoice.
Proverbs 23:25
My son, be wise, and make my heart glad, that I may answer him that reproacheth me.
Proverbs 27:11
The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame.
Proverbs 29:15
A wise son heareth his father's instruction: but a scorner heareth not rebuke.
Proverbs 13:1
Buy the truth, and sell it not; also wisdom, and instruction, and understanding.
Proverbs 23:23
The proverbs of Solomon the son of David, king of Israel;
Proverbs 1:1
The father of the righteous shall greatly rejoice: and he that begetteth a wise child shall have joy of him.
Proverbs 23:24
The proverbs of Solomon: A wise son makes a father glad, But a foolish [stubborn] son [who refuses to learn] is a grief to his mother.
AMP
The proverbs of Solomon. A wise son makes a glad father, but a foolish son is a sorrow to his mother.
ESV
The proverbs of Solomon. A wise son makes a father glad, But a foolish son is a grief to his mother.
NASB
Proverbs of Solomon The proverbs of Solomon: A wise son brings joy to his father, but a foolish son grief to his mother.
NIV
The proverbs of Solomon: A wise son makes a glad father, But a foolish son is the grief of his mother.
NKJV
The proverbs of Solomon: A wise child brings joy to a father; a foolish child brings grief to a mother.
NLT
Wise son, glad father; stupid son, sad mother.
MSG