Every man shall kiss his lips that giveth a right answer.
Proverbs is a collection of ancient Hebrew wisdom sayings, many of them attributed to King Solomon of Israel, compiled over centuries as practical guidance for everyday life. This verse uses a vivid, physical comparison: giving a straight, honest answer to someone is like a kiss on the lips. In the ancient Near East, a kiss was a gesture of genuine warmth and close relationship — used in greetings and moments of real affection. The proverb is pushing back against evasiveness, flattery, and telling people what they want to hear. The point is striking: honest words, even difficult ones, are an intimate act of care.
Father, give me the courage to be honest — not as a weapon, but as a gift. Where I have chosen comfort over truth, forgive me. Make me someone others can trust to speak plainly, and help me do it with the warmth of a person who genuinely cares about them. Amen.
We live in a time of extraordinary verbal output and a quiet famine of actual honesty. We have more ways to communicate than any generation in history, and somehow we say less of what we actually mean. We hedge, we soften, we say "that's an interesting idea" when we think it's a disaster, and "I'm fine" when we haven't been fine in weeks. The wisdom writer cuts through all of it with one jarring image: honest words are *intimate*. Like a kiss. Like something that requires you to be close enough to be seen. Think about the last time someone told you a hard truth with real tenderness behind it — not to win an argument or feel superior, but because they actually saw you clearly and wanted something good for you. Didn't it stay with you? Didn't it feel like being truly known? That is what this proverb is pointing at. Honesty is not coldness dressed up as virtue. It is one of the more quietly loving things we can offer another person. The real question is whether the people in your life can count on you for it — the kind that is more honest than brutal, the kind that says: I care enough about you to tell you the truth.
What do you think is the difference between the "honest answer" this proverb celebrates and what people sometimes call "brutal honesty"? What separates them?
Who in your life gives you genuinely honest answers? How has that shaped your trust in that person over time?
Why is it so often easier to give vague reassurances or flattery than to be truthful — what are we really protecting when we avoid honest answers?
How does a pattern of small dishonesties and evasions slowly change the quality of a friendship, marriage, or team over time?
Is there a conversation you have been putting off — one where the honest answer is needed but you have not given it? What is one step you can take toward having it this week?
As an earring of gold, and an ornament of fine gold, so is a wise reprover upon an obedient ear.
Proverbs 25:12
A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in pictures of silver.
Proverbs 25:11
The preparations of the heart in man, and the answer of the tongue, is from the LORD.
Proverbs 16:1
A man hath joy by the answer of his mouth: and a word spoken in due season, how good is it!
Proverbs 15:23
He kisses the lips [and wins the hearts of people] Who gives a right and straightforward answer.
AMP
Whoever gives an honest answer kisses the lips.
ESV
He kisses the lips Who gives a right answer.
NASB
An honest answer is like a kiss on the lips.
NIV
He who gives a right answer kisses the lips.
NKJV
An honest answer is like a kiss of friendship.
NLT
An honest answer is like a warm hug.
MSG