To speak evil of no man, to be no brawlers, but gentle, shewing all meekness unto all men.
Paul wrote this letter to Titus, a trusted colleague he left on the island of Crete to help organize and lead the young churches forming there. This verse is part of a larger section giving practical instructions for how Christians should behave in the broader world — not just within the church, but among neighbors, coworkers, and people they may strongly disagree with. Paul lists four specific behaviors: don't tear people down with your words, pursue peace rather than conflict, be gentle and thoughtful, and show genuine humility toward everyone. That final word — "all" — is doing significant work. This standard doesn't apply only to people you like or respect.
God, my words get away from me more than I'd like to admit. Teach me to pause before I speak — to choose peace over being right, and humility over having the last word. Make me someone who is genuinely safe to be around. Amen.
Slander in Paul's world was a social weapon. A few well-placed words could ruin a reputation, collapse a business, end a career. We haven't moved past that — we've just given it faster delivery. The comment section. The group chat. The quiet but effective character assassination that happens when a person becomes a topic. Paul doesn't say "try to be kind." He says have nothing to do with it. Don't start it. Don't pass it along. Don't sharpen it with one well-timed addition. That's a harder line than most of us actually hold. But notice what Paul is building toward: "true humility toward all." Not strategic humility. Not the kind you perform when someone important is watching. True humility — the kind that genuinely considers another person's dignity before you open your mouth or your keyboard. This verse isn't asking you to agree with everyone or avoid hard conversations. It's asking you to answer one question before you speak: does what I'm about to do treat this person as someone made in God's image? Most of the time, honestly, we already know the answer before we do it.
Paul calls for humility "toward all" — not just toward people you respect. Who is the hardest category of people for you personally to treat with genuine humility, and what makes them hard?
Think back over the last week. Were there moments when your words — spoken, typed, or implied — failed this standard? What would you have done differently if you'd paused first?
Does being "peaceable and considerate" conflict with speaking truth or standing for what's right? How do you hold both at the same time without sacrificing one for the other?
What does the way you talk about people when they aren't in the room reveal about your actual character — not your stated values, but what you're like when the stakes feel low?
Choose one specific relationship this week where you could practice one of these four qualities more intentionally. What does that look like in a concrete, practical way?
But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.
1 Peter 3:4
Let your moderation be known unto all men. The Lord is at hand.
Philippians 4:5
Who is a wise man and endued with knowledge among you? let him shew out of a good conversation his works with meekness of wisdom.
James 3:13
But I say unto you, That whosoever is angry with his brother without a cause shall be in danger of the judgment: and whosoever shall say to his brother, Raca, shall be in danger of the council: but whosoever shall say, Thou fool, shall be in danger of hell fire.
Matthew 5:22
Blessed are the meek: for they shall inherit the earth.
Matthew 5:5
Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice:
Ephesians 4:31
And the servant of the Lord must not strive; but be gentle unto all men, apt to teach, patient,
2 Timothy 2:24
In meekness instructing those that oppose themselves; if God peradventure will give them repentance to the acknowledging of the truth;
2 Timothy 2:25
to slander or abuse no one, to be kind and conciliatory and gentle, showing unqualified consideration and courtesy toward everyone.
AMP
to speak evil of no one, to avoid quarreling, to be gentle, and to show perfect courtesy toward all people.
ESV
to malign no one, to be peaceable, gentle, showing every consideration for all men.
NASB
to slander no one, to be peaceable and considerate, and to show true humility toward all men.
NIV
to speak evil of no one, to be peaceable, gentle, showing all humility to all men.
NKJV
They must not slander anyone and must avoid quarreling. Instead, they should be gentle and show true humility to everyone.
NLT
No insults, no fights. God's people should be bighearted and courteous.
MSG