Drink waters out of thine own cistern, and running waters out of thine own well.
This verse comes from a father's extended warning to his son about pursuing relationships outside of marriage. In ancient Israel, cisterns and wells were vital resources — they stored and provided fresh water, which was precious and life-sustaining in a dry climate. The father uses this image to describe a man's wife: she is his own source of life, nourishment, and intimate satisfaction. The broader chapter in Proverbs contrasts the seductive pull of an adulteress with the richness of the marriage already at hand. The father's point is direct: what you're searching for elsewhere, you already have. And it is entirely yours.
God, forgive me for looking past what you've already given me. Teach me to see the gifts right in front of me with fresh eyes — especially the people who've been there so long I've stopped noticing them. Let gratitude be my first instinct, not my afterthought. Amen.
Isn't it strange how the water right in front of us can start to seem ordinary while we convince ourselves something better must exist somewhere else? This ancient piece of wisdom from a father to his son isn't only about marriage — though it's certainly about that. It's about a deeply human tendency: to undervalue what we have and romanticize what we don't. The image of a cistern in the ancient Near East wasn't bland. In a region where water meant survival, a personal well was precious, carefully maintained, worth protecting with your life. The father's point is radical in its simplicity: you already have this. It is yours. Wherever you are in life — married or single, 22 or 62 — this verse asks a harder question than it first appears. What gifts, relationships, and ordinary blessings have you stopped tasting because familiarity made them invisible? The grass-is-greener pull is ancient. It predates social media and every comparison trap you've ever fallen into. The father's wisdom isn't "settle for less." It's "look again — really look — at what God has already placed in your hands." Gratitude isn't passive. Sometimes it's the most countercultural act you can perform on any given day.
In its original context, this verse frames marital faithfulness as finding deep satisfaction rather than just obeying a rule — why do you think that framing matters, and how does it change the way you hear the instruction?
Where in your own life do you find yourself most drawn toward what others have or what you don't yet have, rather than grateful for what's already yours?
Is contentment a feeling that arrives naturally, or something that has to be actively cultivated? What's the practical difference between the two?
How does taking your closest relationships for granted affect the people in them — what does a spouse, friend, or family member feel when they sense they have become invisible to you?
Choose one relationship or blessing in your life that you've been treating as ordinary — what would it look like to actively tend to it this week, the way someone carefully maintains a well they depend on?
Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.
Proverbs 18:22
Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.
1 Corinthians 6:18
Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.
1 Corinthians 7:5
Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.
Hebrews 13:4
Nevertheless , to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
1 Corinthians 7:2
Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth.
Proverbs 5:18
Thy wife shall be as a fruitful vine by the sides of thine house: thy children like olive plants round about thy table.
Psalms 128:3
Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.
Proverbs 5:19
Drink water from your own cistern [of a pure marriage relationship] And fresh running water from your own well.
AMP
Drink water from your own cistern, flowing water from your own well.
ESV
Drink water from your own cistern And fresh water from your own well.
NASB
Drink water from your own cistern, running water from your own well.
NIV
Drink water from your own cistern, And running water from your own well.
NKJV
Drink water from your own well — share your love only with your wife.
NLT
Do you know the saying, "Drink from your own rain barrel, draw water from your own spring-fed well"?
MSG