To keep thee from the evil woman, from the flattery of the tongue of a strange woman.
The book of Proverbs is a collection of practical wisdom writings in the Old Testament, largely structured as instruction from a father to his son about how to live well and avoid destruction. Chapter 6 contains a series of warnings about behaviors that lead to ruin. This verse is part of a longer passage (verses 20 to 35) warning specifically about sexual unfaithfulness and adultery. The 'immoral woman' and 'wayward wife' refer to a woman who pursues relationships outside of marriage — a recurring figure in Proverbs used to represent a specific category of temptation. The key detail in this verse is 'the smooth tongue': the danger being described isn't only physical attraction, but the power of flattering, persuasive speech to make a destructive choice feel reasonable. The broader argument is that internalizing God's wisdom acts as a kind of built-in protection.
God, I know my heart is more easily swayed than I like to admit. I don't just want to avoid the wrong things — I want your wisdom to run so deep in me that it becomes my instinct. Guard me from what sounds good but quietly leads somewhere I don't want to go. Amen.
The ancient world and the modern world share more than we like to admit. Today's 'smooth tongue' doesn't always arrive as a person — it comes as a screen offering something just slightly over the line, a culture that redefines boundaries so gradually you barely notice the shift, a thousand small compromises that each seemed reasonable in isolation. The father in Proverbs understood something that holds true across thousands of years: we rarely fall from a single dramatic decision. We drift. And what drifts us is almost always something that sounds appealing, even sensible, first. But here's what's worth noticing: the surrounding verses describe what actually protects you from that drift — not willpower, not a firmer resolution, not gritting your teeth harder. The protection described is wisdom bound to your heart, God's commands internalized until they become instinct rather than effort. The guard is built from the inside out. So the honest question isn't only 'what am I trying to avoid?' It's 'what am I filling myself with?' Because what runs deep in you shapes what you reach for when something smooth and seductive presents itself at 11 PM on a Thursday. Discipline runs out of fuel eventually. Wisdom fed deep into your heart doesn't.
The verse says wisdom 'keeps' you — an active, ongoing protection rather than a one-time choice. What does it actually look like in practice to let wisdom function as a daily guard in your decisions?
What forms does the 'smooth tongue' take in your own life — what kinds of persuasive reasoning or appealing voices have nudged you away from what you knew was right?
This instruction is addressed from a father to a son in a specific ancient cultural context. How do you think the same underlying wisdom applies to people of different genders, ages, and life situations today?
How do the people you spend regular time with shape your resistance to — or your vulnerability to — temptation? What does your honest answer to that suggest about some of your current relationships?
Rather than focusing only on what to avoid, what is one thing you could actively do this week to fill yourself more deeply with wisdom — so that good choices begin to feel like instinct rather than constant effort?
Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.
1 Corinthians 6:18
Thou shalt not covet thy neighbour's house, thou shalt not covet thy neighbour's wife, nor his manservant, nor his maidservant, nor his ox, nor his ass, nor any thing that is thy neighbour's.
Exodus 20:17
And I find more bitter than death the woman, whose heart is snares and nets, and her hands as bands: whoso pleaseth God shall escape from her; but the sinner shall be taken by her.
Ecclesiastes 7:26
To deliver thee from the strange woman, even from the stranger which flattereth with her words;
Proverbs 2:16
A lying tongue hateth those that are afflicted by it; and a flattering mouth worketh ruin.
Proverbs 26:28
For the lips of a strange woman drop as an honeycomb, and her mouth is smoother than oil:
Proverbs 5:3
The mouth of strange women is a deep pit: he that is abhorred of the LORD shall fall therein.
Proverbs 22:14
And why wilt thou, my son, be ravished with a strange woman, and embrace the bosom of a stranger?
Proverbs 5:20
To keep you from the evil woman, From [the flattery of] the smooth tongue of an immoral woman.
AMP
to preserve you from the evil woman, from the smooth tongue of the adulteress.
ESV
To keep you from the evil woman, From the smooth tongue of the adulteress.
NASB
keeping you from the immoral woman, from the smooth tongue of the wayward wife.
NIV
To keep you from the evil woman, From the flattering tongue of a seductress.
NKJV
It will keep you from the immoral woman, from the smooth tongue of a promiscuous woman.
NLT
They'll protect you from wanton women, from the seductive talk of some temptress.
MSG